Friday, November 4, 2016

The Loving's, Glamour Magazine, Interracial Marriage and LOVE!


Us, living in LOVE!

Today is a special day for interracial marriage...the movie, Loving, opens in theaters in New York and Los Angeles! Richard and Mildred Loving had to fight for their interracial marriage and fight they did, all the way to the Supreme Court...and they WON! 

Loving vs. Virginia ~ "There can be no doubt that restricting the freedom to marry solely because of racial classifications violates the central meaning of the equal protection clause."
    
(Movie's Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/lovingthefilm/?fref=ts)

I have been writing about the Loving's for many years (see story here: http://themanyshadesoflove.blogspot.com/2011/06/right-to-live-in-love.html) and they will forever hold a special place in my heart. Because of their courage, strength and most importantly, LOVE -- my husband and I, and so many others, have the right to marry and live our lives just like everyone else. The thing is, we ARE like everyone else. There is no difference between our love and any other love. We might look different on the outside, but as we all know, love comes from the heart...where everyone is the same. Love is love!!

A personal piece to the story is: my husband and I are honored to be part of the Glamour Magazine story about; The Loving's, interracial marriage, and the Loving movie. The Loving's made us possible and for that, we are forever grateful! 

We chose love and love won...again! 






#VoteLoving
#LoveWins
#Interracial Marriage
#Glamour Magazine

Thursday, July 7, 2016

I've been doing a lot of thinking the last two days about the senseless killings of two more black men by officers of the law. I have respect for a lot of police officers; one of my oldest and dearest friend's is a police officer, our wedding was officiated by a pastor (and friend) who is also SDPD, and so on.
But, as a white woman married to a black man, I have also seen the "perceived power" behind the badge against the person I love. My husband could EASILY be one of the "statistics." I have seen an angry cop, losing his cool, with a gun pointed at my husband's head. Jamie was a black man shopping and yet he was treated like a dog, handcuffed, and taken to the ground on his belly with a gun to his head...mistaken identity!!! I saw that officer's face turn red, while yelling at my husband to get on the ground, with his finger on the trigger of the gun pointing at Jamie. All that cop saw was a black man assumed to be a criminal. Period. It didn't matter that he was innocent, nothing mattered, except for what HE perceived to be "truth." He was the law and in his mind he could do anything.
The anger and frustration our country is going through is something I get to my soul because I have witnessed it time and time again directed at my spouse; shopping while black, driving while black, living in a nice neighborhood while black...you get the picture. Incident after incident of police questioning an innocent black man for NO reason other than being black in America.
This doesn't happen to white men, they get treated differently; even when they kill 9 people in a church, or 12 people in a movie theater...they don't die! Whether it's an innocent black man or a black man with a record; the white officers who automatically go "there," need to be off the streets and need to re-think why they became officers of law.
If the citizens on the streets aren't looked at and treated equally in THEIR mind, then the citizens on the streets CAN'T and NEVER will be protected by THEM. EVER.
#Blacklivesmatter #AltonSterling #PhilandoCastile #enough

Tuesday, May 26, 2015

Interviewed by a Student in Minnesota...=)



Last year I was interviewed by a student from Australia about interracial marriage. This year I was contacted by a student in Minnesota. She is a high school senior, writing a trend paper on the increase of interracial marriages in the U.S. I'm so honored to be a part of her senior paper. 

Following is the interview:

Jordan: 
From your personal experience, do you think interracial marriage is a representation of race relations in the U.S.? If so, are these relationships positive or negative?

Me: 
That is a very good question. I’ve never been asked that specific question before. From my personal experience, I would have to say, no. We have such a long way to go when it comes to race relations and I think interracial marriage is more representative of opening minds in all areas. If people accept each other when it comes to race, religion, education, socio-economic status, sexual orientation, etc.; then ignorance, racism, hate, and homophobia will become a thing of the past. It really encompasses being open about everything. My marriage is an example of that. Yes, we are a black and white couple, but really, we are just a couple like everyone else.
                              
It doesn’t matter what the mix is, it just matters that love and happiness are involved. I don’t see anything negative about two people in love. The more love we have in the world, the more positive things will be, for everyone.

Jordan: 
According to the Pew Research Center, interracial marriages have a higher divorce rate compared to same-race marriages. What are your opinions of this, and why do you think this is the case?

Me: 
I’m sad to hear this is the case, but do understand. There are so many other factors that go into interracial marriages besides just the day to day, year to year “issues” that same race couples go through. In interracial marriages there are: cultural differences, non-acceptance by family, friends, and society; religious differences, etc. If a couple does not have the foundation and strength to get through the tough times, let alone deal with the issues that I listed previously, this can make for an extremely difficult road. 

However, even though my husband and I have dealt with every obstacle imaginable, we were determined to not only make it through, but to come out stronger on the other side. It takes commitment, communication, partnership, work, and of course…love. Because we had more obstacles to deal with as an interracial couple, the daily life obstacles are that much easier to handle. It becomes a “win/win” eventually, and is so worth it in the end.

Jordan: 
In your blog, The Many Shades of Love, you were interviewed by an Australian student that asked you about your daughter. Overall, how do you think having parents of two races has affected her, or, how is her upbringing different from a child born of a same-race couple?

Me: 
We raised our daughter to embrace both sides completely, from being close to all of her relatives, to learning and living both cultures. When someone asks, “What are you?” She responds with, “I’m human.” I can’t think of a better answer.

She grew up in a diverse area and has always had friends of all races. She hasn’t had many negative experiences but the few she had were heartbreaking for us as parents. She received a piece of hate mail because of her mixed race and she has been called the “n” word. Because of how strong she is, instead of being hurt or horrified, she was sad for the person spewing the hate.

From the time she was a baby until now, we have dealt with all sorts of things when it comes to the race issue with her and me. She and her dad never got questioned, but I always did. People would say to her, “Oh, your mom is white?!,” when I picked her up at school. Or, people assumed I was the babysitter, or that she was adopted, and my response was, “I was in labor with her for over 20 hours, I’m soooo her mom!” It’s a fascinating thing to have to prove you are someone’s mother. When our daughter was entering kindergarten I had to choose one race on the form for her. I chose both black and white because she IS both. I got a call from the district and was told the form only allowed one. I told them if I chose only one then I was denying one of us. They apologized profusely and told me they had no choice because that is how the form was set up. I ended up choosing black and told them they needed to change their process. Fortunately, all these years later, we can choose multiple options on the forms when it comes to race. Progress.

Interesting enough, if you asked our daughter if she had any issues, she would tell you that having mixed race hair was difficult. It is very hard to manage and she always felt like she didn’t fit in when it came to that aspect. She wore extensions, straightened her hair, etc., no matter how often we told her hair was beautiful. Now, at 20 years old, she is all natural and embraces it fully. Something that seems small and superficial was difficult for her as a teen.

Jordan: 
Are there any aspects of interracial marriage that you think would be beneficial to include in this paper, such as personal experiences, anecdotes, or obscure attributes of this topic that are not well-known by the general public?

Me: 
Opening our hearts and minds to other cultures -- not only their traditions -- but to who they are as people, can create possibilities beyond what we ever imagined. When we look past the differences in skin color and concentrate on the similarities inside, that’s when we see; our skin might not be alike, but our hearts are exactly the same.

I would leave everyone with the following thought:

Cross those social lines. You might be pleasantly surprised at what you find on the other sideCrossing social lines opens minds!

Jordan,
There is nothing that makes me happier than helping students and opening minds. Thank you for writing your paper on such an important topic. Until we all accept each other and look beyond our differences, we will continue to be divided. You are now a small part of creating change. I wish you happiness and dreams come true during your next "steps!"

All my best to you,
Amy

Monday, August 18, 2014

Interviewed by a Student in Australia... :)



I recently had a very unique interview....
Eugenia Massaquoi, a 12th year student from Nazareth Catholic College in Adelaide South Australia contacted me and asked if she could interview me for her English project regarding the topic of, "What are some of the reasons why people are attracted to different races?" What a special interview it was...

Interview:

Eugenia: 
     Are you attracted to a certain race? If yes, is it physical attraction or is it related more to elements of their culture?

Amy:
After being with my husband (who is black) for 22 years, I am physically attracted to black men now. I think that is the natural progression of human nature. We gravitate toward what we have wonderful experiences with.

     Eugenia: 
     When did your attraction to other races start for you?

Amy:
I have always been very open to being with anyone. The race of the person never mattered, the heart did. I first dated outside my race in my mid twenties.

Eugenia: 
     What are some of the biggest challenges you had to face being in an interracial relationship? 

Amy:
-Family rejection
-Friends non-acceptance
-Societal racism
-Stereotypes of the “black man with the white woman.” i.e.: my husband was called a “sell out.” I was told I took “another brother from the hood.” I was called a “fad” or a “phase” he was going through. It went on and on.

     Eugenia: 
     What do you believe are the advantages and disadvantages of being in an interracial relationship? 

Amy:
-The advantages are you are with the person you love...your heart and your soul. You get to experience a new culture filled with so much richness. You learn new things about an entirely different group of people. It becomes about co-existing with everyone and not excluding anyone. The heart and mind automatically open to everything in life. It’s quite amazing.
-The disadvantages are dealing with racism on different levels: from family, to friends, to society.

     Eugenia:
     How did you meet?

Amy:
It was 1992 and I was driving up the 805 freeway in San Diego, CA. I was with my "little sister" from the Big Sis/Little Sis program. As we were driving, multiple black sports cars, (all with black men in them), were in the lane next to us. My little sis started to wave at one of the men in one of the cars. I told her to stop waving because they were too old for her (she was 15 at the time). My little sis said, "No, I know one of them, he used to coach my basketball team when I was little." That coach so happened to be my future husband! I wasn't sure if I believed her or if she was just flirting, so on we went up the freeway. A few weeks went by and my little sis was out and about, and who did she run into....my future hubby! He asked her, "Who was that woman you were in the car with the other day?" She told him it was her big sis, and then he proceeded to give her his phone number to give to me. So the next time her and I were together, she gave me the phone number and told me it was from the guy we saw on the freeway. Well, I promptly threw it in the trash and said, "I don't call people that I see on the freeway who are complete strangers!" She said, "But I know him!" I didn't care, he was a stranger to me. A couple more months went by and my little sis and I were driving around again and low and behold but who was standing in a friend's front yard talking.....again! Odds?!? My little sis said, "That is the guy who gave you the phone number." I said, "Oh my gosh, you have got to be kidding me!? I better pull over and say hi or he is going to think I am totally rude." We pulled over, he came over to the car and said hi, and then promptly asked why I didn't call him. I told him, "I don't call people I see on the freeway. Let's do this the right way...you call me...here's my number." We talked for FOUR hours on our first call! However, we still didn't go out for another two months. We got to know each other over the phone, day, after day, after day. Finally, we had our first date. You would think the rest was history, but noooooo, that would have been too easy. We dated from that day on, but there was a slight snag in our future. I had already made the decision before he and I met, to move back to Oregon to be closer to my family. Soooo, we literally fell in love, and it was time for me to leave. I debated whether or not to go, but he told me to go because I would regret it if I didn't. He said, "If we are meant to be it will work out. You want to be with your family, so that is where you need to be." I left. We wrote and called constantly. Distance, not so fun....four months later he moved up to Oregon! Then three months later we moved back to San Diego! Nuts huh!? I am a California girl, I couldn't take the rainy weather. THEN the rest was history! We got engaged, got married in '93, had our daughter in '94, and here we are today. So when anyone asks the question......how did we meet? The answer is.....on the 805 freeway.....fate took care of the rest!

     Eugenia:    
     What do you feel is the public's reaction to your relationship when it first started compared to today? 

Amy:
Hmmm...that is a very good question because so much has changed, yet so much still remains the same. We were featured in the national newspaper USA Today in an article about interracial marriage statistics, and our family photo was also part of the article. The comment section in the online version was filled with hateful comments about our family. It shocked me. Those are the times when I see how far we still have to come. Yet, I also embrace the very fact that we are legally able to be married and walk down the street hand in hand without being thrown in jail, as was the case not many decades ago. So, to answer the question: we have come leaps and bounds when it comes to equality regarding the laws on the books, but we have a very long way to go when it comes to people treating people equally.

     Eugenia:    
     What was your family's first reaction? How do they feel now? 

Amy:
My family was totally accepting when it came to race but had issues with the socio-economic differences and educational differences. My husband’s family did not accept me for years because of the racial differences. On both sides, they were all still hanging on to “societal norms.” My husband and I crossed all the “social lines” and it was hard for people to accept. It was easy for us because it was based on love not on pre-conceived rules set up by society. Now, today, everyone loves everyone and we are one, big happy family unit. They all realized what we knew from day one...it’s about love.

     Eugenia:
     Do you have children? If so, how is their experience growing up as interracial children?

Amy:
We have one daughter. We have always taught her to embrace both sides of who she is. She is very secure regarding her racial identity. When someone asks, “What are you,” her answer is, “I’m human.” She grew up in a diverse area and has always had friends of all races. She hasn’t had many negative experiences but the few she had were heartbreaking for us as parents. She received a piece of hate mail because of her mixed race and she has been called the “n” word. Because of how strong she is, instead of being hurt or horrified, she was sad for the person spewing the hate.  

     Eugenia:   
     What were your initial thoughts or concerns of each other prior to dating?

Amy:
We didn’t really have any concerns about anything prior to dating. We just let things happen naturally and fell in love. It wasn’t about our race, it was just about us.

     Eugenia: 
     Do you believe your life would be different in any way if your spouse was of the same race? If yes, how so? If not, why?

Amy:
Yes, it would be quite different. When a couple is of the same race there are things that will never be an issue for them. They don’t have to worry about society’s reaction, family reactions, issues regarding their children, parts of the country they can and can’t live in due to racism, walking into a restaurant and being approached as if separate parties, I could go on.  

     Eugenia:  
     What advice would you give to individuals starting to date out of their race?

Amy:
To anyone starting out in an interracial relationship: Follow your heart and block out all the “noise.” The world is not color blind and reality is what it is when it comes to interracial relationships. Stay true to who you are as a couple. If you allow the opinions of others to rule your relationship you won’t make it past the first couple of dates. Build a foundation based on love and don’t let “outside cracks” break your foundation. It’s not going to be easy, but it’s so worth it to have a long lasting relationship with the one you truly love. Always remember; it’s about the heart, not the color of the skin.  

     Eugenia:  
     What have you learned being in an interracial relationship? 

Amy:
I have learned that I am stronger than I ever realized. I have learned that crossing “society’s lines” can be a wonderful thing! I have learned to compromise. I have learned to stay true to who I am no matter what the opinions of others are. I have learned that love trumps hate...every, single, time.

     Eugenia:  
     What are your thoughts on people who don’t agree with interracial relationship or who has a negative opinion towards interracial relationship?

Amy:
I feel sad for someone who isn’t willing to date outside their race. They are missing out on an entire population of amazing human beings that could be their partner for life. The color of someone’s skin has nothing to do with what an amazing heart they might have.

     Eugenia:  
     Do you feel religion and or customs can play a part in interracial relationships being difficult? Can you give expamples?

Amy:
They definitely play a part. It‘s up to us whether or not that becomes difficult. It’s about choosing to compromise and embrace aspects of both races; from religion, to food, to dress, to music, to everything. It’s icing on the cake and a great addition to one’s life if they can be open to adding new things from other cultures and religions. We should never stop learning and growing. Being in an interracial relationship brings a whole new level of understanding and being open minded to all. 


Thank you for reaching out to me Eugenia! Hopefully we both opened some more hearts and minds together...through your English project! Wishing you happiness and success. Here's to your bright future!

All my best,
Amy


Thursday, June 12, 2014

The Right to Live in Love......


There are days when I simply forget how far we have come because I'm just living, and then there are days when I realize how far we still have to go. However, there is one day that will always be special to me...Loving Day. I'm sure there are many of you out there that don't even realize what Loving Day is or what it represents, but to me it represents my heart, my marriage, my love. So what is it? It's the anniversary of the June 12th, 1967 Supreme Court decision....

Loving vs. Virginia ~ "There can be no doubt that restricting the freedom to marry solely because of racial classifications violates the central meaning of the equal protection clause."

Richard and Mildred Loving, an interracial couple....(how PERFECT is their last name by the way...REALLY, that is their last name!).....were forced to leave their home state of Virginia after they married, because back in the late 60's their union was still illegal in 16 states. Yes, illegal! They had two options....go to jail, or leave Virginia. They packed up and moved to WA, D.C. and the rest, as they say, is history. They didn't just move, they fought (all the way to the Supreme Court), they won, they LOVED! Bravery, courage, determination, and true love won out. How cool is that!?! Because of this amazing couple my husband and I are free to live and free to love. I can't imagine having to fight for the right to marry the man I love. I would though...no doubt...no question in my mind. I would fight like a lion! It still boggles my mind to even think that it was illegal for two people to marry solely because of the color of their skin. This was during my lifetime no less. How insane were "we" back then!? This is why it is so important to always stand up for what is right. If we stay quiet and do nothing, then nothing happens. If we speak up, and teach tolerance, then everything can happen! Sometimes laws might be changed and sometimes minds might be changed.....either way, we move forward, and that my friends, is a good thing! So to Richard and Mildred Loving, a brave couple who stood up for the their love and their rights, here's to you, from all of "us"....thank you Loving's for giving us the RIGHT to live in LOVE!

For more information about this special day and this amazing couple visit:

For more information on their struggle:
(Originally posted in 2010)

Wednesday, February 5, 2014

An Interracial Family, a Cheerios Ad and Racism....


Original Ad: 2013
Superbowl Ad: 2014

I wrote this post last June when the original commercial first aired. I'm sharing it again due to the racism surrounding the 2nd version and its airing during the Superbowl....

It is rare to see interracial families featured in commercials or even t.v. shows for that matter, so I'm thrilled to see an interracial family in the ad above. However, I am so disheartened to learn of the hateful comments surrounding this very ad.

When I saw the story on various media outlets about the Cheerios commercial featuring an interracial family and the racist backlash because of it, sadly, I wasn't surprised. My family dealt with the exact same issue when we were featured in USA Today just 1 and 2 short years ago.

Article 1: http://usatoday30.usatoday.com/news/health/wellness/marriage/story/2011-11-07/Interracial-marriage-More-accepted-still-growing/51115322/1?loc=interstitialskip
Article 2: http://usatoday30.usatoday.com/news/health/wellness/marriage/story/2012-02-16/US-rate-of-interracial-marriage-hits-record-high/53109980/1

I was so excited to have our family represent IR marriage in USA Today and then I remember being disgusted, shocked and hurt by the hateful words spewed in the comment section. I later spoke to a friend of mine at USA Today and she told me to stop reading them or they would drive me crazy. They ended up having to remove some of the comments because they were so racist. I had to pull myself away and realize when it comes to racism, change doesn't happen overnight, even though I wish with all my heart it would. I do have faith that one day it will be a non-issue. Clearly, as we see with the negativity regarding the Cheerios ad, we are not there yet.

This year will be our 20th wedding anniversary and 21 years together. As I have shared many times on this blog, we have dealt with all forms of racism during our years as a couple and family. I used to get angry, cry or get upset, but now I just feel sadness for anyone who carries hate in any form. Whether someone is racist, homophobic, or against another religion...hate is exhausting. I can't express enough how important it is for anyone who holds hate in their heart to let it go. In the end, the only person hate affects is the hateful person. Hate is stress and stress kills. Living a life filled with love and happiness cures more than hate, it leads to a longer life.

The thing is...nobody is born a bigot. Racism is taught. When we start accepting each other, we will stop hurting each other. I have an idea...let's start today, while eating a bowl of Cheerios! =)

Monday, January 20, 2014

Honoring MLK...


Today we honor him....

January 15th, is Martin Luther King, Jr.'s actual birthday. Every year on his birthday I watch pieces of his I Have a Dream speech. Each time I see it I am thrilled at how far we have come, yet, at the same time, amazed at how far we still have to go.

In his speech he said, "I have a dream ... that little black boys and black girls will be able to join hands with little white boys and white girls as brothers and sisters, I have a dream today!" 

Those words touch me in so many ways. As a white woman married to a black man in the present day, it takes me back to the fact that Jamie and I were illegal (in many states) when he gave his now famous speech. Because of MLK, the Lovings, Rosa Parks, and so many more -- I am able to live freely and happily with my beautiful family. We are not only holding hands, we are married! His dream and more!

How does one even begin to thank people who have paved the way? The answer to that question is ... keep paving until it's no longer necessary. It's time for ALL of us to not only continue the change, but to be the change! For good. Forever. That is how we honor MLK and all the others who sacrificed so much for so many. Not just today but every day.

"Happy birthday" ... to the man, the father, the pioneer, the peacemaker.

Thank you. For everything.

Tuesday, December 3, 2013

Giving is a Way of Living...


Young, old, black, white, brown or yellow...we are ALL in this TOGETHER!  

This holiday season, pick 1, 2, or all of the things on the list below...THEN, going forward, no matter what time of year it is, make giving a way of living. =)

Let's make a difference....
~Donate Food
~Volunteer time at a food bank or shelter
~Donate blankets, scarves, gloves, jackets, hats to the homeless
~Shop local

~Visit a senior
~"Adopt" a family

~Grocery shop for someone
~Donate money to charity
~Take a senior to lunch
~Help someone decorate their house who isn't able

~Buy from friends: Crafts, products, books, art, etc.
~Donate toys

~Take someone to see the holiday lights
~Spend time with family and friends
~Read to children; at a library, a shelter or a school

~Shovel snow for a neighbor
~Volunteer to clean the beach
~Recycle trees, boxes, paper, etc.
~When the season is over...pause, reflect, rewind and repeat. =)

Happy Holidays, 


Amy Wise ♥

Friday, November 15, 2013

2013 USA Best Book Awards!



I'm thrilled and honored to have my inspirational quote book, Believe in Yourself ~ Inspire Others ~ Spread Joy, chosen as an Award-Winning Finalist in the Self Help: Motivational category of the 2013 USA Best Book Awards by USA Book News

Every word in my book came straight from my heart and helped me get through a very difficult time. To know those very words are now helping others is an incredible blessing and EXACTLY why I wrote the book!

I am grateful for the honor and thankful to all those who have supported my "paper baby." I hope it continues to help and inspire many more people.

As most of you know, my mission, my passion; is to help people find their joy, follow their heart and live their dreams!!! My dreams come true over and over each time I hear my book has touched someone else! It is a beautiful feeling and one I treasure every, single, time.

  View book here:

Wishing everyone JOY and DREAMS COME TRUE!

Monday, October 21, 2013

Freedom for All Radio Interview...

Last week I was the guest on Freedom for All Radio with hosts Jim and Jennifer Ellis. I talked about the "justice" system, family, interracial marriage, following dreams, finding joy, the journey to my book Believe in Yourself ~ Inspire Others ~ Spread Joy, my new non-profit; R.I.S.E. to Empower Inc. and more!

If you missed the show you can listen here:
http://www.blogtalkradio.com/freedomforall/2013/10/18/guest-amy-wise

Thank you for taking the time to stop by and thank you for listening!

Sunday, September 22, 2013

To My Biological Mom...



A note to my bio mom, whom I've never met. I'm not sure why, but for the first time in 48 years, I felt compelled...

~I don't have a longing but I am curious. Do you feel the same?
~I've always wondered if we act alike. Do you feel the same?
~I look in the mirror and imagine seeing you. Do you feel the same?
~I relate to my heritage because it's my blood. Do you feel the same?
~I love my own daughter to my soul. Do you feel the same?
~I have a wonderful life and am truly grateful. Do you feel the same?
~I don't miss you but I think of you. Do you feel the same?

~I know in my heart if we met, we would be the same!

One final question...
Do you ever wish you knew my name?

The Luckiest Girl in the World......


She came home, all wrapped in pink, to a house that was filled with love.

Her childhood had many faces and many places, and friends from all around.

She kept old friends and made new friends, and was always ready for more.

There were times when change wasn't so easy for her, and she gave you lots of grief.

You never stopped loving her, you never stopped believing in her

and even when you wanted to, you never gave up on her.

She finally grew out of it, and became more mature, and thankfully lessons were learned.

She went off to college, and traveled the world, because you gave her wings to fly.

She loved and she lost, you stood by her side, while she picked up the pieces of her life.

She became her own woman, she loved again, this time it was for keeps.

There were smiles all around as she started a family, a new little girl of her own.

Her family grew up, right before her eyes, and then she continued to grow.

She went on, to follow her dreams of making it on her own.

Then her dream was destroyed, and once again, you were there to help her through the storm.

The storm is still raging, but she is not, for a new dream has now been born.

She is stronger than ever, no matter the hurdles, because she knows she's never alone.

Who was that baby wrapped in a blanket so many years ago?

That baby was me, and all I can say is I'm the luckiest girl in the world.

I write these words deep down from my soul, to my beautiful parents, who gave me so much.

You made me feel special because I was chosen, and you told me I came from your heart.

I thank you for loving me, I thank you for choosing me, I thank you from my core.

I will love you forever, and always be thankful, that I was the one you chose.

~Amy




(Originally written and posted in 2010)

Wednesday, August 21, 2013

20 Years of Marriage!

Our Wedding Day ~ August 21,1993
I do! And then some!
I now pronounce you....
I had to make our cake topper 
because interracial toppers didn't exist 20 years ago
Filled with joy!
Awwww ~ Daddy and daughter so long ago!
Jamie and I NEVER imagined 21 years ago, on that fateful day on the freewaythat today, we would be celebrating 20 years of marriage! The odds were not only stacked against us, they were piled high! However, through it ALL, we grew more in love, created a beautiful life and raised a loving family. 

Even though in our eyes we are just a couple, to society we are an interracial couple. We deal with so much more than couples that are of the same race. Sometimes it's mind boggling. We could have easily walked away all those years ago and decided that it wasn't worth the extra struggle to move forward in a relationship, but instead, we did the exact opposite and became stronger in spite of the obstacles. Each brick that was thrown at us made our foundation even stronger and our love even deeper. It's a choice to make it work and a choice we are blessed to have made. 

We not only have the obvious race difference but we are from VERY different worlds. I was raised in upper/middle class, white bread suburbia and Jamie was raised in the hood. Night and day lives, that came together because of 2 hearts and one love. We embraced each other's worlds and we raised our beautiful daughter to appreciate both and feel comfortable in both. Today we live in the middle of the 2 and it works perfectly. Who knew that Jamie would be attending book signings and going to see things like the artsy fartsy mosaic stairs in San Fran and I would be attending ghetto fabulous lowrider shows and car shows! It makes me laugh just thinking about it! Partnership and compromise at its finest!  

Through laughter, tears, love, loss, happiness, sadness, anger, relief, ups and downs...I am grateful for every moment of every single day during these last 20 years of marriage. 

Happy anniversary to my best friend and my soul-mate. Thank you for our CRAZY, AMAZING, LIFE! I Love you Jamie Wise! Here's to 20 more!

Our Fam ~ August 2013
 Us 2013
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20 years later! More in love than ever!!