Monday, July 25, 2011

Oregon Snowbunnies.....

Jamie and Amy
Timmy and Niki
Where do I begin? The last few months have been such a rollercoaster, my stomach is still doing flips from the wild ride that has been life lately. I try and take it all in stride and I try and go with the flow, while continuing to ride these constant ups and downs. Sadly, one of the downs that I will never understand and still can’t grasp or believe, is the loss of Jamie’s little brother Timmy to a hit and run driver in Las Vegas. Tim just turned 40 last month and he had treated himself to a Harley Davidson motorcycle for his birthday. Now before you go there…Tim was an EXPERIENCED rider. He was in the Ruff Ryder motorcycle club and has ridden for years. Unfortunately, a person with no conscience ran a stop sign and CHOSE to continue running, while Timmy was left behind. Our hearts are broken and the world will never be the same without him. Ever.

As I share the story of his loss, I’m going to share another story that will bring a smile to your face, just like Tim did for all of us, all the time!

Jamie and Tim were two peas in a pod. I count both of them as two of the funniest, craziest men on the planet! Truly. If you don’t laugh when you’re around them, well, you have no sense of humor at all! None! Another thing about the two of them is they would give you the shirts off their backs and would do anything for anyone…..especially for their family and friends. These two, big, teddy bear men are fathers that love their kids to their core. Now when I said two peas in a pod that was no joke! One of the funniest things about them is, they BOTH married white women from Oregon. Yes that’s right….both of them! For those of you that know Jamie and Tim you wouldn’t think either one of them would have gone down “that road” at all! But the fact that they BOTH did, and the fact that Niki and I are BOTH from Oregon…hilarious! Jamie has always said to Tim, “You just had to be like me didn’t you!?” So the running joke for all of these years has been, the two most unlikely “brothas” went and married white women from Oregon. Amy and Niki….go figure!

Now that Tim is our angel, this little bit of trivia about the two of them has gone from being funny and silly to holding a very special place in my heart. Niki and I have realized this odd connection these last couple of months as we continue to deal with the loss of Tim. It was ever more apparent when she stayed with us last week while we prepared for his Celebration of Life. It’s not just that we are from Oregon, it’s that we get each other. We get the family dynamics. We get the differences. We get the difficulties that we’ve both experienced. We get the hilarity. We get that Jamie and Tim’s “side” HATE “our” traditional green bean casserole. We get it ALL! It has gotten to the point where we speak at the same time and the EXACT same words come out of our mouths. It’s a little freaky!

I will forever have a bond to Nik that is unexplainable and so very special. When we share the story about both of us being white girls from Oregon, yes we laugh at the irony, but now we will treasure the connection. So through the laughter and through the tears, Niki and I will always be sisters AND “The Oregon Snowbunnies!” I know Timmy is smiling at this one, just as we are smiling at the memory of him. Love you Tim! Forever and always!

9 comments:

Madgew said...

Beautiful story of family and friendship. Some people just go together like two peas in a pod. SO glad you and Nik have each other and Jamie has you all.

Lynda Halliger-Otvos said...

Amy, I am sorry for your loss this summer. Hit and runs are some of the worst accidents ever.

I too lost a brother, my younger bro passed just after his 48th of a heart attack the second of June in Tulsa OK.

It is unbelievably sad when our men die so young.

Anonymous said...

-I enjoyed meeting Jamie & Niki honoring Tim...I felt the energy from all those around who loved him & because of that all share a bond of connection...
-Niki has a great heart that no doubt was one of the reason's Tim was attracted to her...
-I wish her & the kids the best & know that Tim is watching over them-Jamie-you & all those he loved...
-thanx for sharing the loving...Judy

Anonymous said...

My heart still aches for you and Jamie, sis. Take care of yourself and your "teddy bear". You are both so important to so many. Love you bunches. Lori

Georgie said...

So sweet and heartfelt Amy….strength grows in numbers and you will all grow strong together. Tim would be proud. Stay gold…..love to you all.

Amy Wise said...

Thank you all for your kind words and your hearts! I love each and every one of you. Lynda...that is the SAME day that Timmy was killed. Oh my gosh. I'm so sorry for your loss. I'm thinking of you. Hugs and oh so much love to all of you.

A.

NAY K. said...

Amy, sorry for your and Jaime's loss. I have never loss a relative or friend that way. I hope the cops have arrested and sent to prison the man or woman responsible for Tim's death. Did they catch the a.h yet?

On the other hand, I can totally relate to Jaime's teasing his brother Tim about copying him in terms of love and marriage. When my youngest son, Sullas (age 24) got engaged and married in 2008, I was told by some family members that my son copied me in his choice of a wife.

My wife Ester is a Hispanic/Latina from Latin Central America and Sullas wife, although she has lived in American since age 13, she too is a Hispanic from Central America.

I swear that I Never suggested or told my son to marry a Hispanic woman because prior to his wife, he was dating a young White girl and I liked her too. They just did not last long. I would have been happy with what ever race of girl he married, but I admit that I am thrilled in my heart that he married interracially. To paraphase Jessie Jackson's slogan "Let's keep Interracial love alive".

Niki said...

Amy, Thanks for the beautiful blog! You know the "green-bean casserole" will always be a running joke in my household. I even think I will make some every Thanksgiving and set a plate to the side for Tim! LOL!!!! Wouldn't that just make him cringe! I love you!

Amy Wise said...

Nay K.,

They have not caught the hit and run driver. Who knows if they ever will. I hope so. I'm not sure how someone lives with themself after doing something like that. I guess some people can. I love the story about your son. It's all about open minds and you have clearly taught him to have one! Hugs to your fam!

Nik,

A plate at the table for Tim and the green bean casserole....oh how perfect that would be! I love you girl. You know I'm ALWAYS here for you. Always.