Sunday, November 15, 2009

After All This Time.......

Relationships can be so tricky, especially in a mixed race marriage.  In a world seen through rose colored glasses we all get along, but once the glasses come off that's not always the case.  Jamie's Mom, otherwise known as Gigi, was to put it mildly not thrilled when I entered the picture.  When her son chose to marry a white woman she was not a happy camper.  For years her and I really had no relationship and sadly we didn't get "close" until she was literally on her death bed.  She became ill while visiting from Atlanta and heartbreakingly she was never able to go home and passed away while she was still here.  She was in the hospital for quite some time and Jamie and I went to visit her almost every single day.  During those visits she witnessed our love and our family's closeness.  She realized that her son and I were happy, and skin color and everything else aside, happiness is all that really matters.  We were with her to the end, and I will never ever forget the heartbreak my husband went through on her very last day so many years ago.  Pure and utter sadness at the loss of his Mother that he loved so much.  Flash forward to present day......the other day we were volunteering at my Sister n Law's church and a "little piece" of Gigi appeared.  Jamie's Sister said, "Oh, I found this the other day when  I was cleaning out some boxes."  She then handed us a card in an envelope.  It was a Christmas card from the last Christmas that Gigi was alive.  In the card she said, "She was sending her love to Jamie, to Me and to Tatiana."  Jamie and I literally sat there and cried.  For him his Mom came to life if only for a minute through her handwriting, and for me it was a little treasure of love sent to our family, after all this time. =)


Tonya Ingram said...

That is beautiful! Simply beautiful!

Anonymous said...

I have always believed that the power of love is strong enough that the connections continue long after death, through unexpected "pieces" of those we love like you described or simply the ongoing thoughts and remembrances of those who have meant so much to us. I am glad that Jamie was able to get that "touch" from his mom and that you were able to have another example of her acceptance of you in her son's life. Love to you both.

Amy said...

Tonya...thank you!!!

Lori I so believe that too. This journey we are all on is pretty amazing and I am so blessed to be sharing it with you and everyone else in my life. That card spoke volumes in just a few simple words...=) I will always treasure it.

Love Amy

Anonymous said...

What a great story! So happy that eventually she came around. I only wish people could "see the light" sooner when it comes to what's really important in life. It's unfortunate that it often takes extreme circumstances to wake people up. That aside, I think that message was truly a GIFT to your family after all this time.

Amy said...


It was truly a gift. I wish I had more time with her but I am just happy that I had something. It is still so foreign to me that it was ever an issue but at least it changed in the end.