When Jamie and I met and fell in love we knew fairly soon that we were going to be married and have a family together. Sometimes you just know these things. For us it was just a given. We were married in August of '93 and little Miss Tatiana was on the way in December of '93. =) I remember having a conversation with my Mom when Jamie and I decided to get married. It was about being in a mixed race marriage. She had no issues with this except for the fact she was worried about her future grandchildren. She didn't want them to face any prejudice or hate. She said it would break her heart. So think about it, when two people of the same race get married and decide to have a family they just do it. They don't have to think about what their kids will face in regards to the color of their skin. My Mom certainly didn't need to have that conversation with my Sister or Brother when they got married. The issues and decisions that an interracial couple face are so different than couples in same race relationships. When the day came that we found out we were expecting, ironically my parents were in town visiting from the Northwest. It was a happy, happy day and all of us were thrilled! The worry somehow melted away. I will always focus on the positive and deal with the negative as it comes. I will never let the negative rule my life, my marriage, or my daughter. So when my Mom voiced her worry, bless her heart, I just told her we would make sure that our children lived the happiest life possible. We wouldn't shelter them from racism, and when and if it occurred, we would teach them where it came from, how to deal with it, and to always be proud of who they are. That is what we have done with Tatiana....she has grown into an amazing, proud, beautiful young woman.