Monday, August 17, 2009

16 Years...Who Would Have "Thunk" It!?!

Our Wedding August 21st, 1993
The Happy Couple
Handmade Cake Topper =)
16 Years Later.......
My how time flies...this week is our 16 year anniversary! Friday, August 21st to be exact! I am proud to say, that this year, even though having been our most challenging, has also been the best year ever in regards to our marriage. We seem to just get stronger each day. When we met 17 years ago, who would have ever known that we would be such a strong, amazing, happy couple today!!? All couples go through trials and tribulations, ups and downs, good times and bad times, but add to that being an interracial couple, and the odds somehow seemed stacked against us. However, from day one, we knew that no matter what society, friends, or family, tried to do or say in regards to our relationship, we were in love and we were going to make it! So here we are.....16 years of marriage and still goin'! Back then not only was our marriage out of the ordinary but so was our cake topper! They didn't make interracial cake toppers when we got married, so I made one myself! I bought a white bridesmaid, a black groomsman and made it work.....just like our marriage! The small fact that they didn't make interracial cake toppers spoke volumes about how unusual our union was just 16 short years ago. So what does make OUR marriage last? There are so many things, but here are just a few.......we raise our daughter together, we share our faith, we never leave the house without a good-bye kiss, we never go to bed mad, stubborn as we both are we compromise and somehow come to the middle (on most things =), we are there for each other through everything no matter how bad, we communicate, we argue with respect, we apologize (sometimes through clenched teeth, but we apologize none the less =), we share the housework, we share the carpooling, we laugh together, we chill together, we have friends together, and friends apart (you must have your own circle of friends), we give each other space, we are both "crazy", =) and most of all we love each other no matter what! We are not perfect by any means, nor would I want to be, in fact, who is for that matter? However, we are happy, and we are truly, truly in love. Happy Anniversary "week" to the love of my life, my best friend, my soulmate. 16 years later here we STILL are......who would have "thunk" it!

11 comments:

"J" said...

CONGRATS!!

It is quite rare nowadays to see a couple together that long. (though my parents were together for 41 years lit. "till death do ye part" My Mom died of Heart disease, my Dad lasted only 4 years without her.. He went jan. 7th. this year. I hope they're together again..)

So, celebrate!

Amy said...

Awwww J thank you! 41 years for your parents! That is wonderful! Yes they are together again, I have no doubt about that. Mine have been married for 53 years! Can you belive it? Both of Jamie's parents have passed as well. I just can't imagine 41 or 53 years...that seems like forever!!! Awesome to say the least. For now I am cherishing 16! =) Good to hear from you and I hope all is well.

Amy

"J" said...

Yeah, all is well, except for the fact that we are sweltering in The Netherlands..28/30 degrees celcius(high eighties by American standards) and air moisture up to 98% That's Dutch summer for ya..

You'd swear you were in the bajou..

Anonymous said...

Happy Anniversary Week! Congratulations on 16 years. :) Thanks for sharing some of your wedding photos - they are a special treat. Hope you both have a wonderful anniversary day.

-Heather

Amy said...

Jay you make me giggle with the high 80's...that is our weather all the time. =) Or at least most of the time. Now 98% humidity that is a bit much! =) Hang in and head for the water!

Heather thank you so much! I am glad you enjoyed the pics. It was so much fun to go through the album today! What wonderful, wonderful memories!

Thank you both for stopping by...I just love chatting with you! From California, to Missouri, to the Netherlands...how cool is that!?! =)

Amy

Anonymous said...

Awwe...luv the wedding pics you posted on the blog! Luv it, luv it, luv it!!!! I see us growing old together...you, Jamie, Arnold & me....and we will still be talking trash!!!! LOL...Happy 16th Anniversary...

Nancy

Amy said...

Nancy we ARE going to grow old together! I am looking forward to it! The four of us and all of our craziness! Now we just need to carve out time in our busy lives to spend more time together. =) Love you guys!

A.

Amy said...

My hubby's facebook status today:

Friday the 21st I will be married for 16yrs!! Who would of thunk it!! I would like to thank my wifey(Amy) for 17yrs(16 married & 1 shacking up!! Hahaha). These 17yrs have been very wonderful with you!! You are my best friend,you are my life. We ...have been each others rock thru good times & bad times. Thank you for letting me be me!! I can be a thug sometimes(all the time)! My Love for you is Infinity x Infinity...

My facebook status today:....just thought I would share....=)

Happy 16th Anniversary to my best friend, love of my life, soul mate, and husband....I love you Jamie...thank you for making me smile each and every day and for being there no matter what! Here's to 16 more and then some!!! I love you with all my heart! ♥

Anonymous said...

We had a cake topper specially made and they painted the guy black for Mark. We had to do one ourselves too because when they painted the one for us it looked like Mark had a disease! And that was just 7 years ago. We were the 1st that even asked for a mixed couple cake topper at that bakery!

Barb

Amy said...

Barb I can't believe you were the first to ask for a mixed couple cake topper and it was only seven years ago! Wow! I think a lot of people just say oh well I can't find one so I will do with whatever is out there. I love that we all got creative! It's one of those little things that continues to speak volumes!

Amy

Anonymous said...

LOVED your blog posting! Apologizing through clinched teeth..lol, been there..done with it. LOL

Alex