Tuesday, April 5, 2011

The Verdict is in....Love Rocks!

When two people of the same "color" are married to one another, there are so many things they do in their daily lives that are "issue" free. On the flip side, when two people of different "colors" are married, bizarre things come up that most people would never even think about. Welcome to my world.

As you all know we are in this nightmare trial with Otay Water et al. We are on week 3 and still standing strong. Exhausted, but strong!! Of course, before trial started we had to pick a jury. When we were all going through the various jurors, one of the things that we had to keep in mind was if anyone had a problem with Jamie and I being an interracial couple. Weird huh? I know.....this isn't something that one would normally consider when worrying about what a juror is going to think! However, I can guarantee you if there was a juror that had "issues" with us it could possibly interfere with their feelings regarding the outcome. You would hope this would not be the case, and that they would always be impartial, but in the end jurors are just people with opinions. So oddly, these are things that have to be considered. Crazy huh?! Never a dull moment, that's for sure!

It's still so bizarre to me that race plays such a part of our lives. However, things are always popping up regarding our "interracialness," so it's just a fact of life for us in our marriage. Bummer, but life. We are just "us" and nothing else, but in some people's eyes we are still an oddity or something they don't believe in at all. Hopefully by the time we are old and gray we can look back on all these weird racial situations with "fond" memories. For now it's still a very real part of our world. We don't mind if people don't get us, don't approve of us, or for that matter, don't like us.....because the bottom line is; we get us, we approve of us, and we LOVE us! The verdict is in.......love rocks, no matter what the mix!

15 comments:

Lynda Halliger-Otvos said...

Love conquers all of the b.s. in time.

matters that matter said...

you all have created a bridge to sanity and acceptance. one step at a time love conquers fear.

Georgie Girl said...

THE COLOR OF LOVE IS LIMITLESS!!!!!!!!!

Madgew said...

Well said Amy. Love you and Jamie and Tat.

Amy Wise said...

Thank you all my lovely ladies! Love you all for always reading, being there, and just having such HUGE hearts! Really. <3 How lucky I am to know you.

monicastangledweb.com said...

You and your husband make a gorgeous couple. Race will probably continue to be an issue for some time to come, but we have come a long way. And kudos to you for addressing these issues head on. Your honesty is poignant, and shines through your writing. I look forward to reading more! Glad to have found you on She Writes!

Amy Wise said...

Monica thank you so much for stopping by and reading! I agree we have come a VERY long way!!! It wasn't that long ago that our marriage was illegal! Crazy! I'm so happy to have met you on She Writes as well. Women writers coming together....awesome!!! I am going to hop over to your blog right now. Hope you are having a fabulous week. Amy

Nay K. said...

Amy & Jaime: I like your current article and you are 100% right, true love between two people of any skin color or race truly rocks. May God bless you and Jaime and all interracial couples for the beautiful examples they set for the world. We are helping erase prejudice and racism one mix couple at a time.

As for me, I am so use to being in my relationship with Ester that I know that I am in an interracial marriage, which is what I truly want, but the funny thing is that I do not even notice us as a mix couple until the subject comes up.
Best always.

Amy Wise said...

Nay K,

Good to hear from you! Isn't it funny how we forget that we are interracial until someone else brings it up!? That is the way it should be. =) I hope all is well with you and your beautiful family!

Hugs.....
Amy

hannah Kozak said...

Wonderful Amy.It shouldn't even need to be written about in my humble opinion but unfortunately some people still feel the need to judge what they don't understand.Hopefully one day our color won't matter. You did a magnificent job.

Amy Wise said...

Thank you Hannah! Thanks for reading and I'm so enjoying getting to know you on facebook! Have a beautiful week and thank you again for stopping by!!!

Teri Cohen said...

That which doesn't kill us makes us stronger ;-> Amy, you are one of the strongest and most beautiful women I know! Congratulations seems like such an insignificant word regarding your victory over Otay but Congratulations anyway! As always such an enjoyable read! Happy Easter my friend !

Love,
Teri Cohen

Amy Wise said...

Teri,

Thank you so very much! That really meant a lot to me. It's been such a journey but with all the love and support around me it was just that much easier to make it over the huge Otay hurdle! Hugs and much love to you and your fam this Easter! A.

Heather said...

God has blessed you both with a beautiful life, love, and daughter!

Heather

Amy Wise said...

Heather....amen to that! Thank you! Hugs...Amy