tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3404254171013100599.post2728035972128380138..comments2023-11-11T17:23:28.062-08:00Comments on ~ The Many Shades of Love ~: Is Love Enough?....Amy Wisehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01301679404844635237noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3404254171013100599.post-33603104280628397352009-11-05T11:45:23.646-08:002009-11-05T11:45:23.646-08:00Natasha,
So glad you found my blog and are enjoyi...Natasha,<br /><br />So glad you found my blog and are enjoying it. Every single day seems to bring about something to write about. I just wish I had more time. =) I hope you keep reading and I hope you keep staying strong in who you are and who you date! Kudos. <br /><br />AmyAmy Wisehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01301679404844635237noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3404254171013100599.post-14332572842558225252009-11-04T13:01:52.501-08:002009-11-04T13:01:52.501-08:00Just found your post! Love it!! I have dated white...Just found your post! Love it!! I have dated white guys most of my life (I am 28)and I usually get the odd looks, but not much more than that. Last month I went out to dinner with my bf and got stared at by a lady who actually walked by the table and stopped for a couple seconds to look a little longer before leaving!! lol!!! I am glad for your post! Thank you!Natashahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08168462564679360581noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3404254171013100599.post-29564297841613787152009-10-09T18:59:05.330-07:002009-10-09T18:59:05.330-07:00J oh my gosh that is so sad. I totally understand...J oh my gosh that is so sad. I totally understand that in your case there is just no way that love would have been enough. Mental illness is such a tough thing to deal with and if someone is not taking the proper meds or has the proper treatment it is an impossible thing to live with. I have experience with schizophrenia as my cousin had it and has since passed away. She was fine when she took her meds but when she didn't she was hearing voices and doing completely unsafe things that eventually ended up killing her in the end. The irony is she was a nurse when she was well but couldn't even take care of herself when she wasn't. So very sad. Don't ever think you are a terrible person, this is an extreme that is so unbelievable that having a normal relationship just would not have been in the picture. No guilt needed, it is what it is and nothing could change that. Take the good things that you had with her and hold onto those memories. Thank you for sharing your story.<br /><br />AmyAmy Wisehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01301679404844635237noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3404254171013100599.post-29442319346987235332009-10-09T13:08:08.882-07:002009-10-09T13:08:08.882-07:00Hmm..I am afraid for me it wasn't enough. My ...Hmm..I am afraid for me it wasn't enough. My ex had several serious mental issues(borderline being one of them..) and all the love in the world couldn't prevent our split after 8 years of desperately trying.. <br /><br />I have to admit I was the one to state:" enough is enough". Living with a borderliner drains You in no uncertain way. I had to do it to save myself.<br /><br />It was a terrible break-up. She cried her heart out. The saddest part was, that she <i>knew</i> she was sick when the , let's call them "spells" took over and she changed in an utterly unrecognizable person.<br /><br />When the spells subsided she always remembered how she had mentally (mis)treated me. And was always so sad realizing she had one of those periods again.<br />It got worse with the years, and bi-polar paranoia creeped in. She started distrusting anyone, even me, for their motivations..<br /><br />She loved me dearly, and I her(maybe I still do..) but in the end that could not save it. She cried soo hard when I told her" I could not bear it any longer" "Why couldn't we just stay friends?" etc. In the end I had to choose for my own sanity. After 2 years, I still feel terrible ,a terrible person. But, it was just too much for me.... I am not proud of the fact that I was the one to say "sorry, but I do not want any contact anymore" <br /><br />So, no, love is not always enough.Sadly.."J"noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3404254171013100599.post-15424773041499947042009-10-09T12:24:48.373-07:002009-10-09T12:24:48.373-07:00Oh Heather I agree 100% with you! Jamie and I tal...Oh Heather I agree 100% with you! Jamie and I talk about everything, and I mean everything! People are amazed that we do. I got home last night and Jamie was out getting the mail and the talking started the second I hit the driveway. We stood there and talked and talked and then went in the house and continued it while cooking dinner together. Gotta, gotta communicate!!! Love, respect, and communication! No matter the disagreements, trials, tribulations, challenges, etc....the bond of love, communicating openly and honestly, and respecting the other person's opinions should hopefully get us all through!!! So far so good here.....=) I am so happy for you and your man!!! Keep it up, stay happy and just have fun!<br /><br />AmyAmy Wisehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01301679404844635237noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3404254171013100599.post-61389734973534138122009-10-09T09:13:36.735-07:002009-10-09T09:13:36.735-07:00Thanks for the words of encouragement, Amy. We ar...Thanks for the words of encouragement, Amy. We are still going srong after 3 months (plus 5 years of friendship). Still having the time of our lives! Kudos to you and Jamie for always keeping the lines of communication open and talking things through. I truly believe COMMUNICATION is the key in any relationship. So, I have to add, LOVE and COMMUNICATION is enough!<br />-HeatherAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3404254171013100599.post-64823505941294175832009-10-09T08:53:32.537-07:002009-10-09T08:53:32.537-07:00Tonya,
I love your explanation of how you feel ab...Tonya,<br /><br />I love your explanation of how you feel about your honey! I can feel the love coming out of the words. =) Last night my hubby and I were talking and having this very conversation because another one of our friends is contemplating divorce. I feel soooo blessed to be in this marriage with the man who is the love of my life and my best friend. What a feeling! Keep on lovin'.....<br /><br />AmyAmy Wisehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01301679404844635237noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3404254171013100599.post-82320879113709001832009-10-08T15:41:39.644-07:002009-10-08T15:41:39.644-07:00YES!!! I believe love is enough. Like you, the &...YES!!! I believe love is enough. Like you, the "proving" part (if it ever was necessary) was done long ago. Me and my boyfriend have been together over 5 years and we love each other more and more with each day that passes. He is the one that makes me smile for no reason and laugh at nothing... he is my love... he is my everything. We are both professional and I, like you, don't look like "I date a black man" so I love that people notice how much we love and adore each other.Tonya Ingramhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03035295756087790022noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3404254171013100599.post-81622330840668551042009-10-07T11:51:39.305-07:002009-10-07T11:51:39.305-07:00Jess,
Hello! Thanks for reading! =) I do agree t...Jess,<br /><br />Hello! Thanks for reading! =) I do agree that you have to work on so many other things, but if you believe in your love and your bond together than you will automatically work on those things to save the love you have no matter how hard things get. Does that make sense? I think we are saying the same thing in the exact opposite way. =) Here's to many more years for both of us!!!Amy Wisehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01301679404844635237noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3404254171013100599.post-48345683067253382082009-10-06T11:40:32.282-07:002009-10-06T11:40:32.282-07:00As a child of divorce and after celebrating 10 yea...As a child of divorce and after celebrating 10 years of marriage myself...I have to be of the opinion that no, love is not enough. It is a good base/foundation...but so much other work is required. BTW-love reading your stuff Amy!<br />JessAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com